Consider these clues can help reshape the way we feel, think and act.
1 .- Avoid the ideas of "all or nothing" . Reality is not "black and white" or "good or bad." If we think in those terms, are rigid and do not give rise to nuances or points of view.
2 .- Do not generalize too much. Someone lied or did not attend the event, but that does not mean occurs in all cases. Conclusions starting with "always" or "never" often lead to exaggeration.
3 .- Do not focus on the worst detail. situations have different views. If we choose to focus on the worst, everything will be wrong. For example, give more importance to criticism than praise.
4 .- Do not minimize the good. There is always something positive to highlight. If we ignore or devalue, we lose the opportunity to appreciate its advantages.
5 .- less or more. We were wrong both when we exaggerate the importance of a problem as when we minimize our ability to cope.
6 .- Avoid
predictions. First indications confusing or anxiety awaken us, we anticipate the worst conclusion. To think that something will go wrong affect its outcome.
7 .- Say "no" to the assumptions. In our everyday communication is common to believe that another (friend, partner, friend) thinks or feels in a way. How do we know it? Asking is better than assumed.
8 .- Fleeing victimization. phrases or sentiments such as "Why do I always turn to me?" Or "I have always bad luck" or "why me and the others do not?" Us away of responsibility for our actions.
9 .- Do not post or put on labels. By mistake, not all of our people deserve to be disqualified, and something similar happens when others make mistakes. It is not the same as saying "it did" that "I am a fool." But beware: do not blame others for own mistakes.
10 .- Placing limits on personal responsibility. If we believe responsible for each problem (a separation, a child who disapprove, etc..) Only feel guilt. This idea, however, masks another, more negative still, believe that everything is under our control.
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